How many of us have taken the time necessary – or even any time at all – to examine the basis of our beliefs, and how and why we are living our lives as we are?
To examine if the beliefs we hold to be true, are serving us, are serving life? To explore if the mind sets we sustain about what we believe to be true, are effective or beneficial, in light of what we say we are choosing for our lives?
What were we told about being human, being men, being women, being fathers, being mothers, being daughters, being sons, being sisters, being brothers, being family; what were we told about being in relationships; what were we told about Love, Life, Self, God?
How were we informed? What were we informed, about it? AND – what more is there for us to know, for us to be aware of, now?
I know, from my own experiences when I first began asking myself these questions, as well as from the responses I get from people with whom I have had this conversation, that there can be a huge initial resistance to following this line of questioning. One of the biggest things that gets in the way is the notion of duality. I use this term here in reference to the idea that something is either one thing, or the opposite of that.
I invited myself – as I invite all that I speak with – to entertain the notion that in this multidimensional experience we are calling life, there are limitless possibilities in the overall “scheme of things.”
Each one of these possibilities is a valid option, a valid experience, and is of inherently neutral value. Meaning: it is. It simply is.
And each possibility has unlimited contexts to support it.
One example of what I am pointing to, here, is the idea of “right or wrong”. Many people go through their lives judging things to be right or wrong, and act and make their choices accordingly. Something is either right, or, if it’s not right, it must be wrong. Right is good. Wrong is bad. And in this mindset, each person has his or her own individual map of these judgments, and habitual emotional responses to the particular labels as they’ve assigned them.
The reason I am pointing this out here, is that this tendency to judge and label things right versus wrong and good versus bad creates a mighty trap people can far too easily get caught up in, when we start making the inquiries and deeply exploring the possibilities of the questions I mentioned above. Have we examined our own ideas of “right or wrong” and asked ourselves if they are serving us?
Can we see how shifting our questioning to be about finding what is beneficial and effective, could be more expedient?
Are we holding ourselves back from the experiences we say we are choosing, being attached to a duality mindset?
If we are “here” for the experience of our choosing, and we say our experience sucks just isn’t working out well for us – what do we choose, “now” ?
